Ron’s Page

Ronald (Ron) Sanders is a proud Boston native with a strong passion for humanity. He has dedicated his life to advocacy for children, families and the less fortunate. Ron has served as a human rights officer in his professional career—fighting for the rights of underprivileged and underserved.

He gives voice to the voiceless and empowers the weak, helping to make a difference in the lives of many. In his newest and most challenging role as a father, he offers some golden nuggets of advice for new fathers embarking on the journey with him. My brother asked me this question: “What does fatherhood mean to you?” It is funny; I just became a father last year. I’m older than most first-time parents. Me and my wife’s journey to parenthood—although more common for couples these days—was by no means traditional. In fact, I was convinced that God’s plan for me was to be “fatherly” and nurturing to other people’s children but not to have a child myself. Countless times I would break down and tell myself: “I have been blessed to be able to advocate, protect and love many people.” I would say, “It is not in the stars for me to have my own.”

Fast forward to last year—after having two procedures done, lots of tests, tremendous expertise of the doctors and our midwife, love and guidance from family and friends, my wife gave birth to a beautiful, healthy boy. Back to the original question: “What does fatherhood mean to you?” In prayer and reflection, my heavenly Father has been clear. I have been filling a space that some men (including my own father) for whatever reason, have created. And though I have my own child now, in all the work I have done with people—young and old, American, African-American, Spanish, Russian, etc., mentally-ill, disabled, able-bodied, I have been in a fatherly space for more than 20 years:

  • Being there when people were sick.
  • Protecting them from those who might want to hurt or mistreat them.
  • Teaching them and wanting them to have better lives.
  • Sharing in their triumphs and in their let-downs.
  • Listening to them.
  • Being there!

That’s what fatherhood means to me!

RS

Faith Spotlight

Okay, I waited. I waited for the truth to be said, and I didn’t see it. Never read it! Didn’t hear it! I am sickened by the laud over the early demise of Bishop Eddie Long who NEVER should have entered a pulpit against, let alone be called Bishop. It has been demonstrated that he groomed five boys between ages 12-14, plied them with money, cars, trips, jewelry and celebrity association until they were 16-17 years old, the age of consent in Georgia. He used his authority as a man of GOD to manipulate, control, entice and seduce these young men. Undoubtedly, using the tithe and offerings of their parents and other congregants to do so. He pays off these young men, forbids them to speak of it by legal device and mounts the pulpit again to represent himself again as a man of GOD.

Two other well-known, rich preachers chastise his members, who even consider leaving New Birth. Support for Long in his status as an abuser and laud and prayers for him in death. It was and is disgusting. The deification of preachers in our communities is a disgrace. What do our preachers have to do to stop us from affixing to them an irrevocable “anointing?” to lead? When we call for the forgiveness of the preacher who has raped our boys and girls, where is the call for accountability and repentance and reparations? What would it take for us to cease supporting pastors who have used their authority and their role as Christ’s representative, deceiving the people to satisfy their corrupt desires on the most vulnerable. The first person to post that those boys wanted it or knew what they were doing will be unfriended on FB and in life. I cannot trust someone like you around my grandchildren, or the kids in my church. I don’t condemn Eddie Long to eternal damnation. I have no right nor standing to do so.

I condemn the reprehensible behavior in anyone claiming to be a man of GOD. If Jesus warns that it would better for a millstone to be hung around the neck of someone who would offend a little one, who are we to overlook the abuse, molest, rape and denigration of children? I understand forgiveness and restoration. I am an unworthy recipient of His grace and mercy. I am am also a rape, incest, molestation survivor. One of my abusers was a preacher. We all remember Long’s name, his church, his family, his members.

I AM CALLING FOR YOU TO REMEMBER HIS VICTIMS. Have we prayed for them? Are they at peace? Please church folk get your household in order. Stop ignoring what is true. Anyone who offends children, teens or vulnerable adults should have their name considered a byword. Let not your good be evil spoken of. I'm fully prepared for this post's ramifications. Forgiveness, repentance and restoration to everyone.